Why This Process Works
The BEAM LiFE process works because it teaches you to allow sensations and emotions to surface so you can release them. After you learn how to allow and release your sensations and emotions, you are not controlled by them and can enjoy the feeling of freedom of choice. If you have been afraid of feeling your emotions, the process helps you understand how capable you truly are to allow and release discomfort in your body. As you release uncomfortable and even painful sensations in your body, you will find that “behind” those sensations there is a sense of peace.
The process is gentle and effective and leaves you feeling strong and competent. You will realize that you are far more capable than you may have thought, and that you can do anything you put your mind to.
You truly are getting unstuck from old feelings and thoughts that have keept you down.
Many of us find rescue in therapy, religion, and support groups. Often the focus in those support groups is to study and analyze our past. I studied my past and my memories for over 15 years with psychotherapy, breath work, non-violent communication classes, and workshops of all sorts that could help me calm down.
I desperately looked for a way to become a better person, a better mom, a better wife, a better friend, a better whatever. The saying you hear in the recovery community – “At least I am not drinking” – was not enough for me. Being clean and sober must mean more than “being clean and sober”.
I wanted to enjoy my life, have friends, go to parties and social events without feeling anxious and even scared.
In the world of BEAM LiFE “clean and sober” includes compassion, love, and kindness, for self and others; things I knew nothing about.
Daily Anxiety and Panic Attacks
With daily panic attacks, rage, and anxiety, I had difficulty focusing on one task at a time, unable to sit quietly with my children. Reading a book was next to impossible.
One day, I picked up my older (3 years) child in anger and “threw her in bed”. At that moment I had a vision that her neck broke; just a picture flashing by. Scared out of my mind, I dropped to the floor in yet another panic attack. That day I stormed into my therapist’s office and demanded to know why she had not offered me medication.
And what she said put me on the journey I am on now.
“If I offer you medication, I offer you an umbrella. You will not feel the rain, but you will not feel the sunshine either.” I felt stuck. I asked her, “So, when I close the umbrella, I have still not figured out how to deal with the weather, right?”
Her answer, “Nope!”
That’s when I understood that MY healing had to come from my core. I had to find a way to deal with the weather.
In 2006, after a total of 16 years of researching, studying, begging, and trying, I learned about the concept of “Body-awareness,” and how the body can “hold on” to memories of traumatic events. This new knowledge changed my life.
Getting Unstuck helped me feel as if I had come too, as if I had emerged from living under water. It felt like I came up for air.
I came alive!
It changed my life. It saved my marriage. It saved my relationship with my children.
I realized that ANYBODY could learn how to be with their emotions. ANYBODY could heal.
If I can GET UN-STUCK, and feel Social Ease and Comfort, so can YOU!”
In short: The getting unstuck process works because it starts with the core. It starts with you, and it starts with love.